Agony aunt answers your problems. By. Zelda West Meads YOU for The Mail on Sunday. Updated. 0. 0 0. BST, 2. January 2. I regret persuading her to take a lover. When I met my wife it was love at first sight. Sara Davison, a British relationship expert, has revealed there has been a spike in the number of people contacting her to ask whether they are in an abusive. Download the free trial version below to get started. Doubleclick the downloaded file to install the software. I have a highly paid job, we have three children, a great sex life, a beautiful home, nice cars and fantastic holidays. I have always been turned on when men flirt with her and thought about her having sex with them. When we introduced this fantasy into our lovemaking it was very exciting. On my 4. 0th birthday she booked a weekend away and arranged for a friend to join us after a great evening she made love to my friend in front of me and then to me. It was incredible. Now there are two guys she has sex with regularly she tells me all about it and we then have sex we always practise safe sex. I have been offered a big promotion, meaning I will frequently be working away. She plans to carry on seeing her lovers, but I am worried that she may end up falling in love with one of them. Should I take the promotionThere are two options you could consider that your wife agrees not to have sex with anyone while you are away. Or you decide that you too can have sex with other women, then tell each other all about it. Watch Gabriel Iglesias: Hot And Fluffy Youtube' title='Watch Gabriel Iglesias: Hot And Fluffy Youtube' />I dont recommend either, as you are already playing with fire. Why on earth do you want to watch or hear about her having sex with other menIt diminishes the love you have for each other. Dont you feel jealous or worry that they are more exciting lovers than youShe could fall in love with either of these men. 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By the time Justin was a teenager, he was looking after his father, who died of a heart attack when Justin was just 2. Justin has said It wasnt an easy upbringing, to put it at its mildest. He found comfort in religion, but being the child of an alcoholic parent is incredibly hard. One 1. 8 year old, whose mother drinks several bottles of wine a day, wrote to me My parents argue all the time. They dont have any time for me. Teenagers with alcoholic parents need to talk to other adults so their concerns are not forgotten. They require help to understand that they cant be responsible for their parent, nor can they control or cure their problems. An alcoholic parent is unpredictable loving one moment and absent the next. It is important for the child to see their friends and live their own life. They can contact Al Anon al anonuk. Justin Welby said of his father I lived with him, but I didnt know him well. When he died I remember feeling a deep sense of waste. Long after his fathers death, Justin discovered that he had been married to another woman before his mother, had an affair with John F Kennedys sister and nearly married Vanessa Redgrave. Many children of an alcoholic parent are so badly damaged that making a life of their own is very difficult. Luckily Justin overcame that, and survived further tragedy when his eldest daughter died in a car crash aged just seven months in 1. However, he and his wife Caroline went on to have five more children and a happy family life, finding the strength to escape Justins troubled past. ZELDA WEST MEADS.